Girl In a Band was the first book I read after I finished my final university assignment back in June. I’d been waiting to read Kim Gordon‘s memoir since I’d scanned through extracts of it online, and the wait was entirely worth it.
Her writing stirred me. As I made my way through her recollections of childhood, art school, and the music industry; I felt like the luckiest fly on the former Sonic Youth bassist’s wall.
Below are some of my favourite quotes from her memoir:
‘Extreme noise and dissonance can be an incredibly cleansing thing.’
‘I always hated making mistakes, hated getting into trouble, hated not being in control.’
‘Art, and the practice of making art, was the only space that was mine alone, where I could be anyone and do anything, where just by using my head and my hands I could cry, or laugh, or get pissed off.’
‘I was immersed in art, but unformed and trying anything and everything.’
‘They say you always learn something from relationships, even bad ones, and that what your last one lacked, or you missed out on, is what you’re primed to find in the next – unless, that is, you insist on repeating the same pattern over and over again. The codependent woman, the narcissistic man…’
‘Culturally we don’t allow women to be as free as they would like, because that is frightening. We either shun those women or deem them crazy.’
‘I was, and still am, more of the push-everything-else-under-and-let-it-all-out-in-the-music kind of girl. Otherwise I’d probably be a sociopath.’
‘A band almost defines the word dysfunction, except that rather than explaining motivations or discussing anything, you play music, acting out your issues via adrenaline.’
‘Girls with guns, girls in control, girls as revolutionaries, girls acting out – why is that such a perennial turn-on to people?’
‘The most heightened state of being female is watching people watch you.’
‘If you’re at all anxious, the city acts out your anxiety for you, leaving you feeling strangely peaceful.’
‘An Unending kiss – that’s all we ever wanted to feel when we paid money to hear someone play.’
‘The best kind of music comes when you’re being intuitive, unconscious of your body, in some ways losing your mind: the Body/Head dynamic.’